Reflection on July 14, 1982

https://www.ewtn.com/library/PAPALDOC/jp2tb84.htm

I think it is something that is taken for granted in these talks, and in the writings of St. Paul, that sex outside of marriage is something so wrong it isn’t even really discussed, just assumed. “St. Paul … questions regarding marriage and voluntary continence (or abstaining from marriage).” Continence is not seen as abstaining from sexual activity but as abstaining from marriage. This gives a very clear understanding of what a celibate is giving up in their choice. They are giving up marriage, and what goes along with that is sexual activity. I have heard it put the other way or with marriage not even mentioned, only that celibates give up the ability to engage in sexual activity. St. Paul and SPJII, and I don’t think it is a reach to say that Christ, would say that everyone outside of marriage is to restrain from sexual activity, the choice is between marriage and celibacy. It just took me aback in the way they worded in the first paragraph that sexual activity outside of marriage isn’t even considered.

In looking at St. Paul saying continence, if chosen, is “better”, SJPII looks at the idea that marriage is tied to the world. This goes along with what Christ taught when He said in the resurrection there is neither husband or wife. Marriage is a sign for this world, an important and unique sign and sacrament, but for this world. SJPII is saying that marriage is tied to this world, where the choice of continence for the kingdom does not tie a person to this world, or it is liberating and allows the person to more fully engage God in a closer connection to what it will be like after the Resurrection. That, SJPII says, is why St. Paul says it is the “better”.

"Do not refuse one another except perhaps by agreement for a season, that you may devote yourselves to prayer. But then come together again, lest Satan tempt you through lack of self-control. I say this by way of concession, not of command" (1 Cor 7:5-6). I have read a lot of things and taken NFP classes and I don’t know if I have ever heard this passage referenced. St. Paul was pointing to NFP as a proper and spiritual action. He not only points to periods of agreed continence, but also the importance of uniting so that we are not tempted unduly by outside temptations and satisfy each other fully.